I Wasn’t Born Twice…

Hey guys what’s going on, Daisy here. Sorry it has taken me so long to write a new blog. I have been busy getting ready for my friends wedding, working and just being…umm lazy. This blog is one about relationships. I actually just need advice.

I recently reunited with a guy that I used to talk a few years back. we are both more mature now, both have jobs and/or our own place. After seeing him again after so many years, I remembered how much fun we have had and I thought to myself if I should give it another try.

Now here’s my question to everyone else. You know that saying, “iI wasnt born twice, so I dont repeat myself”? does this reign true in relationships as well? Friendships, platonic relationships, as well as romantic ones, if you have dealt with someone in the past, would you backtrack and date/befriend them again, even after a falling out?

I’ll appreciate it guys! Two fingers!

Maybe I’m Just a Bad Girl…

Hey Blog world! Its me Daisy, coming back with another one! I took a little break yesterday; I felt you guys needed time to compose yourselves from the mountain of blogs piling up at your feet. So here it goes.

I just finished watching a preview for one of my favorite shows, Bad Girls Club (I know trash TV but the girlfights grip me in!) and I saw the preview when two of the girls fought, yet again. I remember one of my friends telling me “Daisy, we need to go on that show! They need to know who ‘bad girls’ really are!” I just remember thinking, why? I know how I am and who I am. I don’t need reassurance of how BAD I am or how tough I am, or whatever the case may be. And besides, being on show like this I will be stereotyped forever. This definitely got me to thinking. Why DO people go these types of reality shows?

Dating shows, such as The Bachelor, Flavor of Love or For the Love of Ray J are all hit shows. Women are typecast into certain roles and subject themselves to be degraded to such means of embarrassment all for 15 minutes of fame. Perfect examples are Pumkin and New York from the 1st season of Flavor of Love and Danger from For the Love of Ray J. All three women have the same thing in common. They were all depicted as promiscuous, crazy bitches that will do just about anything for camera time. Not get the man, but camera time. After all was said and done, they were all doomed to a life of radio interviews and cheesy spin-off shows that didn’t get a fraction of the views as the first show had.

Other reality shows, as of recent, such as Jersey Shore and Bad Girls Club (both two of my favorite shows, I know TRASH TV) have stereotyped from the juiced up, tan “Guido” fist pumping like a champ to House and Dance music on Seaside, to the materialistic and gold digger mixed girl who cheats on her boyfriend with D-League basketball players and sluts it up to get her way.

Now my question is, WHY would people want to go on reality shows of these sorts? Now I’m not even going to lie, there was one point where I did want to go on “Bad Girls Club” or “Real World” just so I could say I did something crazy and be known, while traveling for free. Hell, I still feel that way as I struggle to graduate college and constantly battle myself on my career goals. Then I realized that maybe all of these reality stars had something in their personal or home life that they just weren’t happy with, being their love life, career or maybe themselves in general. This is the only thing that I could come up with to describe why someone would WANT to sabotage any chances they had of being taken seriously. It hinders their career goals, when they decide to settle down and have a family, images of them having sex with a guy they’d only have known for a hour floods the internet, embarrassing themselves and their family years later. The saying “Whatever you do in the dark, shall come to light” rings so true in the reality television world when whatever you did in the dark, you can pause rewind and record on DVR.

My feelings on reality TV, although some shows are actually quality shows, such as “Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew” or “Intervention”, that are trying to help troubled individuals, a lot of the shows out there are pure crap. They do nothing for the individual except ruin their images and tarnish their names. Of course there have been a few stars that have rose and overcome the reality TV course and have moved on with their lives. But for others, they have been scraping at everything, anything they need to go get their time to shine. So next time you watch Bad Girls Club or Real World, ask yourself, I wonder what this person is going to be doing 5 years from now. Unfortunately it probably wouldn’t be much.

This blog was pretty much inspired by watching people makes idiots of themselves for attention. This is my personal opinion, how I FEEL. What are your views on reality shows? Do you agree with these statements? If not, what do you feel is the case? Until next time people! Chuckin up the deuces!

5 Levels of Attractiveness

Hey Blog world! What’s going on? Its me Daisy and I have yet ANOTHER blog. Blogging has become a pastime of mine because I get to voice my self, as well as help other people. Or at least I hope.

So I’ve been thinking about how certain people are perceived. That is when I realized there are about 5 different levels of attractiveness. There is beautiful, gorgeous, sexy, cute and hot.

Beautiful: A man or woman that would be considered beautiful(to me) is a person who overall is just a good person. This in my opinion is the most ideal person to be because it goes much further than just looks. Its personality, demeanor, the drive, whatever makes that person special and above the rest. Take the late singer Aaliyah. She was viewed as a very sweet, humble BEAUTIFUL person. Although she was also very attractive, she was also a good person.

Gorgeous: A person considered gorgeous is someone who is so attractive, that it is almost unbelievable. It is almost as if you look at them for too long it will burn holes in your retinas. Being gorgeous also makes an “average” looking person want to show out or become a more attractive person physically. As for the category of GORGEOUS, I had a friend by the name of Diane* who was such a GORGEOUS girl. But she was a late type of gorgeous girl. She actually doesn’t even know how attractive she really was. This was the type of characteristic that set her apart in my eyes to other attractive females. She presented a confidence that was hard to describe but everyone in the room felt it.

Sexy: Now sexy, that is a tricky one. Being sexy is a good thing because not everyone is able to exude sex appeal, so this is a very good quality. Most people who are sexy have ways to manipulate a situation, not with just their looks but with their charm also. Now being sexy can be a bad thing, for girls at least, because when you are seen in a sexual light, you are automatically put in a bubble as “promiscuous”. Being sexy is also a double standard because once a woman is viewed in a sexual light; her value seems to diminish in a male’s eyes. This may be different for some people but with most, its not. I once knew this girl named Arianna who was very sexy and used her sex appeal to her advantage. She got the boys shes wanted, and that’s all she seemed to get. BOYS. The guys viewed her as an object, that they would have to “play” with for an X amount of time to eventually get what they wanted.

Cute: Being cute is also the same as being very innocence, very genuine. A cute person can be seen as naïve(not in a bad way) or very authentic. A girl who wears very little to no makeup and doesn’t look a day over 21 would probably fall into the “cute” category.

Hot: Hot is the word to describe someone who is really appealing to the eye, very attractive, it can almost fall into the bracket of gorgeous but not quite. Being in the “hot category”, although you are very attractive, it is possible that this person would not be considered “relationship material”. In my opinion, “hot” would be a video model. Yes they are attractive but more of a “smash and dash” type of situation.

I have given examples using different celebrities and even real people I know. Now don’t think being called sexy or hot is a bad thing. There are a lot of guys who don’t see things this way. I am only a female speaking of my personal experience as well as others that I know. Feel free to comment if you would like if you agree or disagree with these statements. It would be awesome to get a debate going on so until next time people!

10 Reasons You Know You’re Dealing with a CRAZY BITCH!

Hey Blog world! Its me Daisy, coming to you guys yet AGAIN with another blog! i didnt have any ideas until about last night so i just figured id do it right now!

I was talking to a guy friend of mine who was telling me about the crazy antics this girl he was dealing with had been pulling. She would call his phone and NOT stop calling until he picked up. She would then call his friend to make sure he was with them when he said he was going to be. Mind you, they have only been “talking” for about three weeks. After hearing this and seeing how psychotic some women get with men I decided to concoct my own checklist for the fellas(ladies are free to use these as warning signs as well). This is a little something i like to call:

10 Reasons You Know You’re Dealing with a CRAZY BITCH

#10: If she names her dog thats she’s had for 10 years after you and you’ve only been dating her a month…She’s a crazy bitch.

#9 If she constantly flirts with other guys(i.e. winking at them, blowing them kisses, giving long hugs) but your coworkers tires end up slashed because she told you “nice shirt”…YEAAAA she’s a crazy bitch.

#8 If you two have an arguement where she is at fault, and she somehow twists it, flips it on you and you end upp being the one apologizing…She’s a crazy MANIPULATIVE bitch.

#7  If she randomly shows up to your place of work to “just say hi”….She’s a crazy bitch.

#6 If she has kids and her children start calling you Daddy after the 1st date…umm yeaaa she’s a crazy bitch.

#5 If you go on vacation with your friends and she just happens to be staying at your SAME hotel, across the hall, when she should be at her great grandmother’s funeral…she’s a crazy bitch.

#4 If she calls you 80 times, leaves you 7 voicemails, all in 10 minutes…if you dont get the picture yet buddy, she’s a crazy bitch.

#3 If she Twitter or Facebook stalks you to find out your location and 5 minutes later she’s there too…she’s a crazy bitch.

#2 If she tells you she loves you after the 2nd date…*shaking my head* she’s a crazy bitch.

And the #1 reason you know you’re dealing with a CRAZY BITCH ISSSS:

#1 If you guys are having sex, and you are about to come, she holds onto you tight and says “Be my baby’s daddy!” and you can’t pull out in time….not only is she a CRAZY BITCH but now she’s pregnant and you’re stuck with this broad for the rest of your life. Sucks for you dude *kanye shrug* Should have listened to the first 9 reasons.

This is completely candid and if any person(s) took offense to this, sounds like a personal. These are my top 10 reasons it can change, things can be added  But LADIES if this sounds like you, try reaching out to Dr. Phil, Dr. Drew or just watch a Tyra. Chuckin up the deuces!

Peace & Love

Daisy

Gym Commitment Week#1

Hey Blog World! What’s going on! It’s me Daisy and I just wanted to give you guys a quick update about my new gym commitment.

The picture above is from last summer on 4th of July.

On Thursday I decided to join a gym equipped with a personal trainer at Ballys(people have said bad things about the gym but i like it so far). When I walked in Friday afternoon to meet up with my fitness coach I was pretty nervous about how my first real workout in almost 7 years would be. My trainer was a juiced up Asian guy with hair that looked like Goku’s from Dragon Ball Z. But despite my fear, my trainer ended up being really good.

The first thing he did was weigh me and take my body fat. I am 5’8 and weigh 139.2 lbs with a 16.5% body fat. Even my trainer said body wise I have the perfect athletic build. Now people are probably reading this and wondering “umm why are you joining a gym and hiring a trainer for that matter”? I did not join a gym to lose weight. There is always that misconception that as soon as an already fit person joins a gym, there is something mentally wrong with them. That definitely is NOT me. The reason why I joined the gym was because walking up a flight of steps would have me huffing and puffing. I would speed walk to the bus stop and feel like I am going to pass out. I joined a gym to tone up, improve on some weak points(even though I am naturally strong) and build up my endurance and stamina, as well as improve my flexibility. I hired a trainer because I had no idea how to go about doing that.

After my trainer recorded my weight, height and body fat, we proceeded to do a warm up exercise. Surprisingly we didnt stretch before the workout which I thought was weird. We just went straight to the stationary bikes and he told me to pedal for 8 minutes. After about two, my legs were burning and my heart felt like it was going to beat out of my chest. But the reason for that was because i wasnt breathing properly. He told me breathing was important to improve endurance. Next, we moved onto different weight exercises, which included squats, squats with medicine balls and planks. I found out that the weak point in my body is my lower back and legs, which i would have never have been able to determine myself.

After the hour workout, I was tired but I didnt feel like i was going to pass out. my trainer told me this was just an assessment to see what i needed to work on and that our next work out will be more intense(YIKES!). He then stretched me out. He told me that stretching out AFTER the workout was essential to gain some of your energy back and helped to reduce soreness. I have to admit my trainer was right, I woke up saturday morning not sore at all.

My main goal is to get back my endurance, hopefully by summer so i can be strong enough to start learning how to swim again. But I also want to improve my flexibility so I can be able to do a split! I will continue to give weekly update to you guys about my progress.

Chuckin up the deuces!

30 Random Facts

Hey what’s up Blog World! It’s me Daisy! i decided to do a random blog today stating 30 random facts about me. most people may not know these things, but some people do, so here it goes!

Fact 1: My older sister is about 6 and a half years older than me, so when i was in middle school in 2000-2001, i was wearing my sisters hand me downs from 1994-1995(purple plaid shirt with matching purple corduroys was the infamous one). To say i was made fun of was an understatement…

Fact 2: I think im a narcissist.

Fact 3:Drama makes me happy inside. I mean TV drama, not mine.

Fact 4: I am either too nice or too bitchy. I have yet to find a balance between the two.

Fact 5: I put barbecue sauce on EVERYTHING.

Fact 6: I brush my teeth at least 4 times a day before i leave my house in the morning.

Fact 7: I am not a morning person. If you wake me up out of my sleep, I WILL KILL YOU.

Fact 8: I was an honors student all my life. and then it went downhill as soon as i started college.

Fact 9: Hair and makeup information gets me excited like a man in my bed.

Fact 10:  I have dated every ethnicity. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, Middle Eastern…hmm I don’t know what else is left.

Fact 11: When I was 13, I tripped and fell in the dirt and cried in embarrassment, while 3rd and 4th graders laughed and called me pussy.

Fact 12: I have never had a serious relationship in my life.

Fact 13: i have always gotten in trouble in school for my temper but never got even one day of detention.

Fact 14: Before last week, I hadnt worked out in about 7 years.

Fact 15: I am a sucker for accents and dimples.

Fact 16: I constantly smell my hands after I touch things.

Fact 17: I eat the weirdest food combinations (McDonalds M n M McFlurry and french fries, celery and peanut butter, etc.) so I am constantly getting asked if I am pregnant.

Fact 18: I love my sarcasm. It fits me so well.

Fact 19: I spend a lot of money, but I dont really know on what.

Fact 20: I’ve had about 14 piercings including my hips.

Fact 21: I have not been without a job since I was 14 years old.

Fact 22: 75% of my stress comes from my strict and overbearing parents and my piece of shit older sister.

Fact 23: I want to be married by the time I am 25.

Fact 24: I only have a few friends. And i am deeply grateful for them.

Fact 25: I LOVE WATCHING GIRLFIGHTS!

Fact 26: If i didnt want to be a Physicians Asst, my next choices would be Physical Therapist and Forensic Scientist.

Fact 27: I am always trying to “fix” someone or “help” in any possible way. I have now learned that everyone doesn’t want or DESERVE that help.

Fact 28: I love New York, but I plan to move to Miami or LA within the next 3-5 years.

Fact 29: If you ever call me a lazy worker, i will bash you in the face. Trust me.

Fact 30:  I wish the best for everyone. I just want everyone to be happy and have peace and harmony. SIKE!

There it is, my 30 random facts. I wish i could make it longer but that would be too much information. Hope you enjoyed! Chuckin up the deuces!

Peace & Love

Daisy

1st Blog

This is my 1st try at blogging! It may get a little random at times but this was just what happened to be on my mind at this current moment.

I started this blog because I felt I needed a place to voice myself. My raw, real and straight to the point statements may be a little too much for the normal person but that’s what I feel makes me unique. This blog will also be filled with alot of good such as makeup and hair tips(gotta make this fun too!)

Being a 22yr old Nigerian American in a very strict household where I am often used as the scapegoat in the family, it has definitely made me somewhat of a bitter individual. This is the story of my life, get ready for the ride.

My name is Daisy, I am from Queens, NY currently a super duper sophmore in college trying to get my degree as a Physicians Assistant. i live with both my parents and 4 siblings after moving back home after living on my own for 3 years. me and ma parents dont really get along but i try to make it work(my family blog will be a completely different blog, too much for an intro).

There are two sides to Daisy. There is the fun, energetic, VERY ANIMATED, joking Daisy, and then there is my alter ego which rears its ugly head and scares everyone away. That Daisy is a wreckless talker, with a BADDDD temper, judgemental in a sense, that I do feel like I am better than ppl in a way. I am definitely trying to work on the temper because with a temper like mine I belong on the Bad Girls Club!

I thought I would start this first blog with a topic and my view on it. I tried it on my facebook page, but these ppl were WAY too touchy. soo my question is: what is up with the new wave of 26-30 yr olds acting like theyre 19?! More and more old heads are club promoters nowadays than having families. now me, I’m still young but I would like to start a family by about 27(25 was my target date buttt id like to wat until i graduate college). Grown ass men doing the Jerk with the kiddies: NOT CUTE. women droppin’ it low when they have a 2 week old at home: UR A HAM(Hot Ass Mess)! tha fuck r u doing?! go home n take care of ya kids, ya partying days r OVER!(that statement needed that animation LOL)

Now this blog was just an intro/venting session, I promise I will come with something better in the next blog. Tomorrow will start my first session with a Personal Trainer at a gym, I’m excited! ANDDD my parents will be back from Nigeria(BOO here comesss the drama!) soo til next time I’m chuckin up the deuces.

Peace N Love

Daisy

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